Do you or someone you know have trouble

Managing Anger and Irritation?

You can fix it! A Toolkit for Men!

Have you ever seen these traits in yourself, or asked yourself these questions? Why do I get so angry? How did I become so irritable? I'm a "happy go lucky" guy. So why do I seem to boil up inside at times? How can I be happy one minute and stressed the next? Sometimes I need to pull myself back from the brink of violence and rage. How can I take control when I feel so out of control?

Whether you are feeling mad, stressed, depressed, unassertive or even reach the point of violence you are not alone. Many men are in the same position as you. But your anger, even the silent "under the surface" kind of anger and all of those irritations, can have a negative effect on your life: Relationships become strained, especially the most important ones in your life. Your job...your co-workers...may see a pattern in you and avoid "making you angry". A simple task becomes a major undertaking. Anger can get in the way of you achieving what you want to do – day to day things as well as your most passionate desires and goals. It can be just plain unhealthy. Often we take the route of finding fault in others. After all... ...your spouse or co-workers really know how to push your buttons...the stress of work gives you an excuse to go home and lash out...you work like a dog and there is never enough money, only leading to frustration...if things would work the way they were supposed to life wouldn't be so irritating... ...the list of reasons can go on and on.

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Take a look at this list and see if any of them would likely set you off.

1. You were singled out for an error while others got away with it.
2. A clerk in the store ignores you at the counter and talks to co-workers.
3. You are hounded by a pushy salesperson and all you want to do is look.
4. Someone gets involved in a project or discussion without being asked.
5. Your car gets stuck in the mud or snow.
6. In a hurry to get somewhere and mud gets splashed on you.
7. You are in a hurry and the driver in front of you is going very slow.
8. Someone takes a parking place you've been waiting for.
9. Your boss seems to ignore your suggestions all the time.
10. The kids forget to tell you until late at night they need cupcakes at school.

Are these the types of things that set you off, push you over the edge and possibly cause fights with those around you?

If you could find your "triggers", the things that cause anger and irritation, you might find a pattern.

You also might find a pattern as to how you react to those triggers.

Consider the last thing that upset you. Was it something on the list above? Was it at home, at work? How was your mood before the triggering event, and how quickly did it change?

Did you let the irritation boil within you for a while, maybe for a long while, before one more little frustration caused you to blow up?

Do you seem to go from gentle to angry giant quickly?

Did your anger come out of nowhere – at least to those around you? Are you amazed, even frightened, at how you blow your top?

Or without long periods of calm did your anger seem to start and just build - like going up a flight of stairs – getting more intense as moments went by?

Men, you are not alone! Others have been there and are there!

Most angry men react to situations in one of the four ways above. We might let our irritation and anger fester until a point of no return. Some are constantly going off in small angry outbursts until something causes a major blowup. We might get on an anger jag that constantly grows and nothing seems to calm us down, or just suddenly we go off like a rocket surprising everyone around us.

And the backlash?

You might hear comments like...

• "What's wrong? Is everything ok?"
• "Don't get around him today. He's got something under his tail."
• "What got into him? He's usually so nice and passive."
• "You just never know what mood he's going to be in."
• "Whatever is going on at work leave it there before you come home!"
• "I never know how you're going to react!"
• "I don't like being around him. He's always angry."
• "Why did you get passed over? Because nobody likes working with you."

Sound familiar?

There are real consequences to our anger and irritation. We may not know all of them but others would be glad to point them out to us. People begin to distrust us, our friends and co-workers tend to avoid us, our spouses get to the point where they hate to see us come home.

You probably see some of the consequences and don't even know they are because of your anger and irritation!

You might find yourself being less productive at work because of all of the little "fires" you spend an enormous amount of time putting out (when in reality they could have been let go).

Simple tasks like mowing the yard become a day long chore because you couldn't get the dumb thing started and then, after an hour, realised it was out of gas (whereas if you had kept your head and cool you could have easily and quickly diagnosed the problem).

Watching your kid's soccer game becomes a great "time waster" because you have so many other things to do (and you just can't enjoy the moment).

An evening out ends in frustration because the taxi was late, the babysitter has to be home by midnight and you want to stay out later, the ATM just around the corner is out of cash so you've got to walk a block and a half or the pub is out of your favorite beverage. (But if you had not of been so angry about the taxi and just rang your friends telling them you'd be a few minutes late it would have been no big deal...and then being back by midnight might have been seen as a more reasonable hour anyway...and the walk to the next ATM might have been a leisurely stroll for fresh air...and you could have just tried that new brew you've been wanting to try anyways!)

"Don't assume your anger and irritation doesn't hurt anything, anyone or you!"

And so instead of being productive at work, instead of accomplishing things quickly and easily, instead of enjoying the moment with your family or a nice evening out... ...anger and irritation robs you of life... Friends. Family time. A possible pat on the back or even a promotion at work. LIVING! ...and you may not even recognise it!

Are you tired of the downward spiral?

Have you ever wondered how some can seem to be so happy while you are mired in anger and irritation?

Wouldn't you like to find a way off of the ‘merry-go-round' and enjoy life?

What if you could deal with your anger and source of irritations and truly enjoy life?

How would you like to be the "go to" guy at work instead of the one to be avoided?

How would you like to be the life of the party instead of the "dud"?

And what if after all of those years your spouse still enjoyed your company?

Guys, whatever your reason for anger and irritation, whatever your triggers and no matter how long anger has been a part of your life, you can change things. You don't need to live life feeling like a time bomb – just waiting for the next big blast. Those around you don't need to feel like they are walking on eggshells all of the time – wondering when the next time will be that the volcano is going to erupt.

We often believe that life patterns are unalterable. Not so!

If you would like to...

• End the "up and down" unpredictable ride, anger versus exhilaration spectrum in your life, you can do it!
• Be the family man that others admire versus the guy others wonder how your wife puts up with, you can do it!
• Be sought out for your friendship, your upbeat personality, you can do it!
• Enjoy the accolades from co-workers and your boss for being the guy who is always great to work with, you can do it!
• Say things you want to say without being overly aggressive. You can do it!

But men, in order to accomplish this you need to do two things. First, you need to own up to your responsibility for taking control of the situation and set out to do something about it.

Second, realize that as men we generally all think about things in the same way; A + B = C. That is how we are. We like problem solving, we surmise things in a predictable way and we don't spend a lot of time hashing the same problem over and over again. A + B = C. When we get to "C" we've solved the problem, at least in our own mind. We want concrete answers with predictable results.

So, once we own up to the fact something has to change in order to deal with our anger and irritation we want a predictable, problem solving answer – one that works.

This works! The book written for men and how they think...a toolkit that takes you through A + B = C...practical, engaging and life changing... ...for men! Managing Anger and Irritation: A Toolkit for Men Born out of a counseling practice for men, Kim Richardson has taken what works in his practice – Man2Man Counseling – and compiled it in an easy to follow and apply guide to overcoming anger and irritation!

No "pie in the sky" theories, no ivory tower directives that never work – Managing Anger and Irritation: A Toolkit for Men is practical and doable for any man who can read!

Men, this book is written specifically with you in mind.

Let's face it. Men are unique. They think about things in a certain way and cope with challenges in a different way than women.

Men are also practical and resourceful. If only they had the tools and understanding to do the job they can put together the formula, A + B = C.

Change way you react to "A", the "B" of troublesome beliefs, and you'll change the "C"!

It is like reading the instructions for a product you bought at the store that comes with a thousand nuts and bolts and lots of pieces that look too much alike. Admit it guys. We'll sit there in the middle of the floor and begin to put the thing together without paying attention to the instructions. We think we know how it should look in the end, and we think we can figure out which bolt and nut goes where in the proper order, but often we get half way through and something doesn't fit, it looks a little funny or we have a lot of pieces left over. The result: We have to take it back apart and start over.

Managing Anger and Irritation: A Toolkit for Men thinks like men think – in a logical and progressive order without a lot of hype or unnecessary verbiage. It gives you the tools to make A + B = C and manage your anger!

Bottom line: You'll have concrete actions you can use to commit to change, make change and handle setbacks.

This book is laid out for you in the way men think; clear, practical and lively. Each chapter has a statement of aims or goals. There are "case studies", examples from real life situations clients have shared with Kim Richardson, the author. The "Do It!" boxes are the essential and practical steps you can do to make changes in your life. The "ToolKit" summarizes the key tools in each chapter. It also lists further resources and there are even learning logs to keep track of your progress.

Managing Anger and Irritation is not a textbook, it is a blueprint for success!

Step by step you'll find ways to react differently to those triggering events that get beneath your skin. You'll find ways of challenging your current beliefs and thoughts about "how things should be" and you'll see the results – and so will everyone else – in decreased stress and emotionally draining frustration, calmer reactions and more appropriate responses.

Here is what you'll find in Managing Anger and Irritation: A Toolkit for Men:

Chapter 1 – Key Skills
	Right away you'll be introduced to the key skills you need to take control of your anger; understanding, commitment, gathering information, thinking realistically and taking action. You will not waste any time. Understanding key skills are like looking at the picture of a jigsaw puzzle before starting to pick up the pieces – they give you a clear picture of how you will deal with anger and irritation!
Chapter 2 – Own Up, You're Angry!
	Are you really angry? Explore what makes anger and irritation a problem in your life. Find out why it is so easy to deny that you play the key part in the problem. When you find out what impact anger is having on your life you'll want to curb it – quickly! You'll learn how to make an act of commitment to change for the better!
Chapter 3 – Understand Your Anger
	What is "your" anger? Find out the different parts of the anger "process". Identify triggers for your own anger and irritation. Understand the underlying factors that can feed into you being angry. When you figure out your own anger patterns, what sets you off, you'll soon be able to turn down the heat on your anger. In this chapter a light will come on – you'll go, "Ah ha!"
Chapter 4 – Take Control
	Don't have an accident! In this chapter you'll practice some emergency tools to prevent you from "running the red light" on your anger. Explore various ways to immediately stop anger spilling over into rage. Discover what it would be like to live a life without dangerous outbursts, simmering rage and find ways to avoid things that trigger your anger. Stop the "road rage"!
Chapter 5 – Challenge Your Beliefs
	What if in your anger equation you change one of the numbers? We all have "thinking errors" which cause anger and irritation when someone or something challenges them. If you can identify some of the "thinking errors" that lead to your anger, you can alter the thinking and be less angry!
Chapter 6 – Deal With Irritation and Frustration
	You don't have to constantly lie in the path of the steam roller of triggers. You can move! Learn how to deal with irritation and frustration. Don't be a victim! Problem Solving 101: If you are laying in the road and a steam roller is coming, what should you do? You'll learn a simple way of problem solving to relieve yourself of angry, flattened feelings! Move on, get up, get going and get over it!
Chapter 7 – Stop Taking Things So Personally
	What, or who is getting in your face? What causes you to lose face? Fearing criticism and "loss of face" is behind a lot of men's anger. Discover ways to stop over-personalising. Find out if low self-esteem is dragging you into the pit of being defensive. You'll find ways of dealing with those who seem to be running you down, of situations where you seem to be out of the loop or blamed for things you didn't do. (Shh! And the secret is you'll be able to laugh things off that used to push your buttons!) Feel better, feel bigger – because you'll be able to take control when something or someone pulls your trigger!
Chapter 8 – Be Assertive
	Learn to straight talk! You don't have to be passive or aggressive to say what you want and get what you want. Instead, learn how to be assertive in your communication and behavior with a simple 3-step model of assertiveness. This will help you deal with criticism and conflict. Overcoming anger and irritation does not mean you always need to be meek and mild. You'll take control – learn to stand up to confrontation and conflict and not let criticism destroy your good day!
Chapter 9 – De-stress Yourself
	Every day can't be life on a tropical island. But there are ways to change your responses to stress. Find out the links in your own life between anger and stress. Learn how to think more productively under pressure. Get on board the "life boat" that takes you to a new island in your life where stress doesn't result in anger, frustration and irritation. Find out what it would be like to have the tools to deal with stress in a more constructive way and you'll enjoy even the most stressful day a whole lot more!

By the time you have gone through Managing Anger and Irritation: A Toolkit for Men you will immediately see a difference in your life – and so will others!

• Enjoy "the moment" a lot more!
• Engage others assertively without wimping out – only to be angry later!
• Be sought out by others for your friendship, your fun approach to life!
• Find that co-workers like working with you and enjoy you for your insight and cool demeanor even under pressure!
• Re-engage your family in a whole new way!
• Stop to smell the roses instead of trampling them all the time!

There is even a section in the back of the book with more resources and a special section for your partner in life!

What others are saying about Kim Richardson and his important, insightful help...

Kim Richardson's "Managing Anger and Irritation: A Tool Kit for Men" is an accessible read and enlivening call to action for men who may be confused or troubled by their angry feelings. As a psychotherapist and clinical supervisor and as a man I fully endorse this book for its clarity and wisdom and will recommend it to my clients, colleagues and friends. James Agar, MSc., Psychotherapist

The arrival of a letter from the insurance company saying our endowment mortgage would probably notpay out enough to cover our mortgage, kick started my anger to quite a destructive level and there seemed nobody to direct my anger towards. The fact that I was an accredited counsellor made my growing anger not only embarrassing, but I felt more lonely within it. I tried hard to understand it and dare I say analyse it, but now I felt like an angry dog wanting to bite somebody should they make the wrong move.

I telephoned a former colleague and he mentioned he had just written a book, mainly for men, about dealing with anger and would I read it and give him my comments. In truth this was just what I needed, and from the very first page I was in it, dealing with it and yes it was directed towards men. The section about the affects of my anger on those closest to me was so poignant because almost for the first time I could hear my wife saying « when you go out please try not to let anyone wind you up ».

I thoroughly recommend this book, because if you work with it « IT WORKS ».

TR, France

It's not news that many men have "issues" with anger. Unfortunately they often get stuck with these because people get too scared or too pessimistic to give them a helping hand. Kim's book cuts through that with a clear understanding of what's going on for men and practical strategies to find a way through the distress that underlies anger and the distress it can cause. If you work with men, know men or are one this book offers something real to grab onto - positive, clear and "firm but fair" advice. Neil Davidson - Men's Health Consultant

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If you could live a life in control of your anger and irritations it would be priceless, right?

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• Angry outbursts?
• Fear of criticism or "loss of face"?
• A family that walked on egg shells because they didn’t want to set you off?
• Co-workers who turned the other way when they saw you coming?
• Friends that avoided you because you were emotionally unpredictable?
• A simmering, boiling sensation that kept you on edge?

You don’t need to live like this.

Guys, this book is written for you from your perspective. Kim Richardson, because of his extensive background in working with men, knows how to speak and write in a way that gives you the most knowledge, the life changing solutions and a plan for a future without anger. If you are tired of being the volcano set to erupt, order his book now. It’s up to you to take control of your future. Order now.

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